let’s be honest and determine; how often you sabotage yourself?

Something internally or externally is holding you back, and you may find that putting your finger on it is illusive. So instead of moving past it and taking action, you make an excuse. You justify your reasons for staying put, and to intensify this…You become really good at doing your problem, so as to not find a way to move past what’s holding you back!!!

So, here are some statements and excuses you may be feeding yourself with – please be cognisant of the fact that I have used each and every one of these…the trick here is to know how to deal with the excuses differently, so as to generate a different response, and outcome!!!

KNOWLEDGE – I don’t have enough!!! Well, will you ever have enough? We are learning machines, and we should be cognizant of the fact that we have the capacity to learn, and to change this limiting belief. The knowledge/information you require, is more accessible in this day and age than it has ever been. And guess what; most of it is free – try Google, Amazon and the myriad of other platforms where we can garner information. Take the time to learn something new every day – commit to it and equip yourself to take on any challenge or situation with your new-found knowledge!!!

DIFFICULT – It’s to hard!!! Really…are you being honest with yourself? Wasn’t it difficult learning how to crawl, walk, and run. Wasn’t it difficult getting through school? Wasn’t it difficult achieving anything worthwhile in your life? Let me tell you that anything worth doing is difficult. Easy doesn’t have a huge payoff!!! What really needs to be addressed here is how badly do you want it? What are you; prepared to do? OR, prepared to give up? OR, prepared to embrace?

RISK – It’s too risky!!! OH… REALLY? If, not now, then when? The actual excuse is fear of the unknown. The reality is, you can’t afford not to take a risk right now. The world has changed ever so much that thinking you’re in a secure environment is probably the biggest RISK you will take. If an idea really benefits people, pulling on the reigns doesn’t just inhibit your progress…it prevents other people from improving their lives.

LATER – I will get to it later!!! Let’s get real – No you won’t. You never do. Get to it now, or at least schedule it to get done. Then do it. You’ll be a lot more satisfied when you’re finished.

BORING – I’m boring!!! So what – You don’t want to be boring. What’s boring to some is addictive to others. People process information differently. If you skew towards boring it’s entirely possible to still find the right audience.

MARKET – The market conditions are not right!!! Well there are two ways to look at this one;

a. Market conditions don’t really matter, just do it better than everyone else, and/or b. Market conditions are everything. Let’s also be honest and say there are also two types of people in the world. People who have money, and people who don’t. If the market conditions aren’t right for marketing to the people who don’t have money, create an offer and market to the people who do.

Don’t let your business fall victim to only one portion of the market.

PEOPLE – People are not ready to hear about me or my business!!! There is an element of truth in this…not everyone is ready to hear everything. But if you’ve thought it, chances are you are not alone. If you believe in it enough, one person at a time, you can build a following. Truthfully, it’s usually the things people aren’t ready for that make the biggest impact on the world.

SAFE than SORRY – It’s better to play it safe than to be sorry!!! Let’s imagine waking up tomorrow on the verge of death, and that all your life you played it safe.You stayed at your job and did what you were told. You got promotions, but at your peak you still only made X amount. Which in essence was not enough to see you through retirement. During your life-time you had ideas and watched them came to fruition…at the hands of someone else. They created memorable products; you’re on your deathbed with nothing to show.  You’re unsure how you’ll pay for your funeral. You’re leaving behind a mound of debt, and you never figured out how to just get ahead. Are you feeling sorry yet? Well don’t; get busy creating the life you will be proud of…

YOU HAVEN’T DONE IT BEFORE – This is my favourite excuse, because it’s such a cop out.

Let’s look at some of the common milestones in your life that you got through just fine

  • You went to school (hadn’t done that before)
  • Had your first kiss (hadn’t done that before)
  • Learned to drive a car (hadn’t done that before)
  • Took up a new hobby (hadn’t done that before)
  • Learned to read (hadn’t done that before)

Or really anything beyond lying on your back and flailing your limbs uncontrollably. You hadn’t done anything before you did it. It’s simple, but it’s true. This excuse is rooted in fear of the unknown. Now it’s perfectly fine to be afraid, but “inexperience” is by far one of the worst excuses. Life is built on a series of “firsts” and making the choice to limit your experiences only leads to dissatisfaction.

And the excuses can role on and on – they may also be anyone of the following;

You’re not that good.

Other people are more lucky.

It’s not financially sound.

There’s no R.O.I

The market conditions aren’t right.

There’s no point.

It’s not important enough.

You fear what you might become.

Failure would destroy you.

You can’t commit right now.

You have too many things on your plate.

You can’t commit until you’ve seen all the steps.

You can’t commit to a schedule/calender/ etc.

I’ve used this way more than I should.

You’re a better thinker than a doer.

You’re a better doer than a thinker.

You don’t have the certification/ credentials.

You tried before and failed.

Your idea is too far ahead of it’s time.

You don’t have a website.

You don’t have a good website.

Your customers aren’t on [insert platform of choice]

You don’t want to spend too much time away from the family.

You’re too tired.

If you do this, what else do you have to do?

You can’t stop doing

It just doesn’t “feel” right.

You did everything you could.

But the other guy…

You’re just not confident enough.

You’re not a leader.

You quit once already, you couldn’t possibly try the same thing again.

You don’t have a support system.

You’re too old.

You’re too young.

BLAH, BLAH, BLAH…FISH PASTE!!! So, what…get over it and get going. You are the only one that knows you and the internal rhetoric, that keeps you from all that you are meant to be.

I write this because I know this intimately!!! I’ve lived these and many other lies for too many years. If I can instil any truth in you, it’s that you are not alone…but know this much – YOU HAVE ALL THE CAPABILITIES TO DO WHAT YOU TRULY DESIRE!!!